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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This thread is the worst of DCUM, and I’m sorry for IP that she sought out advice here because what she got only reinforces her self-defeating, unhealthy, negative perceptions.

IRL I know single women in their 30s through 50s who are dating nice, normal men. OP needs to get these negative voices out of her head and just be herself, and live her life.
I’m not saying it’s bit wise to open her mind to men she might not have previously considered, or whatever “list” of requirements she may have had, but there’s no reason she should see herself as a washed-up, over-the-hill nobody who needs to settle for someone “who has no other options.” I mean, WTF - would the PP really give that advice to someone she cared about? The responses seem cruel and baggage-laden.[/quote]

I'm one of the PPs and I would absolutely give that advice to someone I care about, and have. My single friends are all single for one reason: unrealistic standards and expectations, especially in DC. We lie to women in our society and make them think they can focus on career and then wave a magic wand when they're "ready" and Prince Charming will be waiting in a coffee shop. Or, they have an absurdly long list of requirements.

I'm a married woman in my mid 30s, from DC. Those of you who ARENT mid 30s and dating/married in DC? You have NO idea what you're talking about. [/quote]

PP here and I don’t disagree with your advice. I *do* disagree with PP’s advice that the 30-something woman will have to settle for someone with “no other options.” I cannot imagine you would give that advice to someone whose well-being you care about.[/quote]

That poster didn't say "no other options" they said "without options", as in these men don't have women falling at their feet. I also disagree with that term, but agree with the sentiment. My friends who have recently gotten married or started seriously dating someone, the men were: rich but fat and have a drinking problem; divorced; blue collar but happened to live in DC. They are all compromising. My friends who are refusing to compromise? Single. [/quote]

You think women should settle for someone with a drinking problem just to get married? I’m glad you weren’t my friend when I was single! Your advice would’ve been hurtful.[/quote]

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