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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think you've already made a stain on this relationship. If I were him, I'd move on. I'm 39 years old and divorced. I don't commit after 4 months. I got out of an abusive marriage and realized I was dating the wrong people my whole life. I take things slow. Last year, I met someone recently divorced, but wanted an exclusive relationship right off the bat. I said that I wasn't willing to commit that quickly. That it's not a smart idea.

Four months is still brand new. At that stage, I would walk away from anyone who pressured me to commit. Even if we decided to stay together after the stunt you pulled, I'd date around until I found a better partner. You put out such a huge red flag. That you're unwilling to compromise and talk out major differences -- especially when it sounds like he would have come around quickly anyway. You're not great long term material for me.[/quote]

4 months is brand new? I was exclusive with my DH after a month.

Honestly if someone is this hesitant to commit, they have baggage and I would walk. You’re the red flag. If after four months you have no clue about whether this is the person for you there are likely insurmountable trust issues, or you’re just not that into the person. Simple as that.

Exclusive doesn’t mean marry. It means give the relationship a chance to deepen via holding space for a lasting commitment. You can’t do that if you’re holding back and dating around.[/quote]

Except OP and this guy were already exclusive.  That's not the commitment she's talking about.  [/quote]

He obviously has intimacy and commitment issues. Can’t say goodnight? Doesn’t text? He’s holding himself back from getting closer. I don’t think this is the one for her. They are on different pages. I don’t blame OP for not wanting to spell out that she wants more interaction and closeness, after four months and you’re sleeping together exclusively.[/quote]

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