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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You want what you want. Good for you for sticking to it. I don't think that 4 months is a long time, but it really depends on what has been happening for that four months. I would be interested in what a committed relationship means to him and what about it he feels unready for. I would do a lot of listening. [b]The point is for you to get information to process, not convince him or explain yourself.[/b] [/quote]

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If the relationship is amazing and you are clicking (and frankly both of you are 42 and divorced already - so not your first rodeo), and you want a "committed" Boyfriend-Girlfriend relationship BUT NOT MARRIAGE, then I don't think it is too much of an ask.

If he does not want to be in a committed relationship of a BF-GF type, then he wants to shop around and you are just a booty call.  Truth be told - He is NOT INTO YOU and he does not want to solidify a relationship with you. He may still be looking for a hot, young girl who he can start a new family with.  If he thought that he could not do better than you, he would basically not hesitate. He still is "single" and shopping.

OP, you are very smart and your instincts are right.  You should walk.  This man is not on the same life stage/biological stage as you.

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OP: I agree. But what if today at coffee he says he thought about it and IS ready for a bf/gf relationship? Should I give it a chance?[/quote]

Why not? What is there to lose.
Worst case scenario, it doesn't work out and you break up.
But if you don't even try, then you just break up now.

FWIW, I'm a woman and I REALLY don't see the rush if you aren' trying to get married or have kids. I don't think amazing relationships are so common that you can just walk away willy-nilly without giving it a chance.[/quote]

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