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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I'm sorry you're going through this.  I'm in a similar situation but my kids are older.  The only light I can give you is that as your kids get older, he will be able to be with them alone more (because they're older and don't really need as much supervision, not because he's doing anything).

To the posters that say things like... you should've left your oldest child with him, you should announce you're taking a 5 day vacation and leaving the kids with him, etc... you really don't understand what you're talking about.  [b]This is just not an option for people like the OP or me.[/b][/quote]

Seriously ... why not?

If your spouse is so dangerous that he can’t properly watch his own kids, then you need to call cps and get a lawyer involved.

Whenever women claim this I get very suspicious.   They are basically saying their spouse is dangerous.  It makes me think there are other things going on the marriage and that the DW is also at fault.  [/quote]

NP here, and you seem stupid.  Yes, a spouse's negligence could in fact be dangerous.  It seems a lot easier to therefore not leave your kids alone with them, than to purposely leave your kids alone with them, wait for them to hurt the kids, and then "call cops and get a lawyer involved."[/quote]

In my case DH is fine in small doses (like a day) but anything beyond that and he will be pushed to his limit and I would absolutely worry about the kids. I’d never leave him for 5 days just to see what would happen because that seems negligent. He would also view it as an act of war because he already gets very resentful of having them on his own for just one day.[/quote]

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