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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How can I [b]force[/b] this issue or am I in the wrong? I am sole breadwinner, make about 500k so [b]money isn't an issue[/b] but wife wants our 2 kids to go to private school for middle and high school. The school is about 30k per year. That's about $700k I'm pre tax money and not counting college.

I went to public school my whole life, including a good state school so my tuition from kindergarten through end of grad school was about the cost of one year of this middle school, combined.  I think [b]private school is a waste[/b], unless you are in a bad school district or your kid has unique needs.

Leaving aside I could [b]retire several years earlier[/b] if we sent the kids to the good, local public school, I feel my wife has lost the sense of what a dollar is. She isn't a spendthrift on other areas. I feel like if this is so important, then she can work with basically every penny she earns going to pay tuition.

How do I raise this without blowing things up?[/quote]1) Stop "forcing" things 2)Why wouldn't you spend your money on your kids if money is no issue 3)It can be a waste if your kids are gifted or socially large pool advantages 4)retirement isn't the boredom-free, stimulating utopia you think it is 5)Find out if your wife was raped or bullied or shafted in public school.  6)You are right-a kid who went to private school who could have gone to Longfellow gifted with Teacher of the Year ended up wishing he went to public Longfellow in high school.  Competition is weaker when you restrict the applicant pool.  Many private college loan users get $10,000-$100,000s in debt because they normalize themselves to borrowed money.  Show your wife the sexual assault coverups at paid institutions.  The lower self-esteem of having "daddy's" advantages when they are in fact talented no matter the privilege.  Find out your wife's deal.  If she has a legit reason like pandemic remote learning, pony up.  If not, mention what a role model she will be by showing hard work affords nice things like private school by getting a job and hiring an au pair.[/quote]

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