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[quote=Anonymous]I know you have tried antidepressants, but I would strongly consider that your husband be evaluated for depression.  Sometimes inaction is a symptom of being overwhelmed while battling depression.  Even small tasks can feel like too much.  I think refusing to be evaluated and if diagnosed, agree to treatment, would be a red line for me.

Another thing to keep in mind is that you are under tremendous strain that doesn’t have to do with your husband.  Raising two small children while working.  The stress of raising a child with SN and the insurance battles and therapy appointments that involves.  And OP, I am so sorry for the loss of your sibling!  This is just so much to handle.

Separate the anger you feel about your husband’s unwillingness to help from the rage you feel about all these stressors.  Make sure you aren’t directing all of that anger at him, because if you are not able to tease out exactly what is triggering you, you can’t help yourself bring that rage back down to calm.  And you deserve to feel better emotionally.

You don’t have to make a decision about divorce now.  Maybe waiting until school age and seeing if that helps is the answer.[/quote]

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