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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I actually have a similar experience and I'd feel the same way. I get the "nails on a chalkboard" feeling. I think it's because my MIL has been very bad with boundaries and it feels like it's just "one more thing" that is frustrating to me. I can't really articulate it more than that, but to me, it's irritating, and even though I can't fully explain it, I hear you and I get it.[/quote]

Thank you, that does help to feel understood. Good luck to you, too![/quote]

Me again, in response to PP. I'm not OP, but someone who seems to understand her. Honestly, some other poster said it well when they said a page or two back that it's an assumed familiarity thing. I have nicknames people called me from college, the track team, etc. and I'd probably be surprised if someone who I knew outside of that context just called me the nickname. I also wouldn't want my friends calling me by a pet name my husband gave me. It's just weird. I kind of view this in line with that. Now kids obviously can't articulate this type of thing themselves, but it's just the assumed intimacy. And do I have a problem with grandparents loving the kids? No! Of course not. However my MIL will make comments like, "I can't wait to be alone with you, NICKNAME" to my son and wants to keep special toys at her house so he will HAVE to go down there (they live down the road) if he wants to play with them, and it just feels uncomfortable and weird to me. The jumping to calling him an intimate nickname is just sort of odd along the lines of the other stuff being odd.

This has nothing to do with any sort of guilt or insecurity as a parent that I feel (which I don't, I think I do a great job), so I think that's a bit misguided. I feel very confident in my opinions and my parenting skills, and it's okay for something to just feel "weird."[/quote]

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