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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am all for the baby being on a schedule but everyone wants to also interact with the baby and enjoy this time with the child.

My DH is very bonded with our children and was a very hands-on dad.  It happened only because my BFF observed me being very strict about the routine and care of the baby and not letting DH do things his way.  She told me that if I was to die suddenly, my DH would be incapable of taking care of the baby because I was always correcting him. After that I let go and let my DH, my ILs, relatives, parents etc - interact with the baby. I figured that if my baby was too tired and hyper, she would get cranky and I would be able to swoop in and take her for her nap. Till that time happened, I let the interaction grow and as a result my children are very bonded with a lot of my relatives. My only rule was not to neglect the baby and let the baby sleep when she was sleepy.

Again, while I am a disciplinarian, I will advice you to please, please, please let your family members interact with the baby and form relationship with her without your intervention and supervision.  Especially your DH. He is the other parent and has an equal say. You won't let him get full dibs on the baby and he will not remain involved later on.

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That's nice that it worked with yours, but not all babies are like that. For many, the overtiredness builds over the day. Some go full melt down after feeling horrible and holding it in for a while. My first was an extreme, who would just deal with the overtiredness and never fuss until the end of the day.  Then it was full on meltdown, could not pacify. My husband obviously saw the difference following wake times made, and was on board. But, my point is that they don't all fuss in the moment, and so mom can't just swoop in.

(Though, even for these babies that do fuss immediately, I still don't really understand why you would let baby feel bad.)[/quote]

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