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[quote=Anonymous]My mom has a great relationship with my dad’s parents. My grandmother had 2 boys and a girl though. 
I have an OK relationship with my ILs - my MIL has 3 boys. I sort of feel like if the MIL has only boys they can be a little more controlling to their DILs. That is a generality of course.

I have 3 kids - ages 12, 9, and 6. When my oldest was a baby I basically went to therapy about my MIL and so did one of my SILs previously.  At that time I was new to parenting and insecure about everything I was doing so her criticism didn’t help. Now I am secure in my parenting and recognize that she has anxiety and English is her second language and I know I’m right & she’s wrong & also that she can’t say things so tactfully & can shrug it off and I know she actually does like me & that she’s critical of everyone.  If she ever says anything anymore that really bothers me - I vent to my SILs and they talk me down.

My husband does not have a great relationship with his parents so we don’t see them all that often. If anything - I make it easier for him to be around his parents - taking some of the criticism off him and onto me. I also have him deal with his side of the family on anything contentious rather than me. I know they react better to things coming from him who’ve they’ve known for 47 years vs 16 years from me.

My mom is main communicator with my dad’s side. I wish my husband took more that off my plate. I guess that’s the changing times but I work / have kids / and I really do wish he would stay in better touch with his family rather than having it fall to me. But I’ve generally accepted it at this point and try to call them once a week but sometimes I slip and it goes longer. [/quote]

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