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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We were DINKS for 7 years before kids.  I met DH at 25. We married at 28.  We traveled abroad, lived abroad, moved around, partied like mad and skyrocketed in our careers.  I started to feel a void...I had run marathons, been just about everywhere, the party scene was no longer appealing...I did start to feel like something was missing.  For me taht was kids---but I was scared sh*tless to do it.  Finally, one day...wth we decided.  I got pregnant first shot so there was no time to think about it.  I had my first at 35 and second at 38.  We are in are early 40s and happy as can be.  I don't feel like I missed out on anything.  Waiting let me be in a flexible place in my career..I now WAH.  I really can't imagine never having experienced this amount of joy and love.  DH and I wouldn't turn back time and have no second thoughts.  We got two good ones:).[/quote]

I agree completely and could have written this myself (though we married a bit later in our mid-30s).  Life is so good!

I do look forward to travelling again (with and without the kiddos), but I am comfortable waiting for them to be a few years older.  Many of my friends travel with small kids, but we know ourselves well enough to know it wouldn't be fun for us.  I'd rather wait until the youngest is 3 or 4.  YMMV.

Two things that help make this work for me:  (1)  I love my job.  It's satisfying and stimulating but also flexible.  It keeps me balanced and sane but never interferes with my family life; and (2)  My DH feels the same way I do.  He's so happy to have the kids and be at this stage in his life.  It's certainly not always easy, but we're 100% in it together, and having kids has made our marriage and our lives richer than we ever expected.

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