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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well, I find it hard to believe that this topic never came up during courtship. The way I see it, either you have a kid that you will definitely not enjoy or not have a kid and you risk losing your marriage. Children are a deal breaker for most people so you will have to do some serious soul searching. 
Did you marry for money?[/quote]

It never came up during courtship because DH and I were 23 when we met, and having kids was not something that we could relate to at all.  The concept of having kids never even entered my mind until I turned 30.  DH certainly never brought it up before marriage or until our early 30's.  I think I had a vague idea that maybe I wanted kids someday, but I never thought about it more than that because I really don't like kids very much.  I have never felt a maternal desire for kids and I don't enjoy being around other people's kids.  I always assumed I'd be an older mom, having my first kid in my late 30's.[/quote]

[b]I've changed my mind after reading this post. Between your attitude and your DH's long work hours, definitely do not have kids. You are not interested enough.[/b][/quote]

Why?  Because she is being open and honest about her ambivalence?

I didn't like kids, either.  I very seriously considered having my tubes tied in my early 20s.  I never thought I would like kids.  Then I met a kid -only one - I did like.  He was my nephew, my older sister's first (and only) child.

For awhile, after I had mine (2), I would smile at other people's kids and at other babies and so on.  Now that my youngest is 6, guess what?  I still don't really like anybody else's random kid.  I like some of my kids' friends and I still coo over close friends' kids, but in general I do not like kids.  I would, however, lay down my life for mine - anytime, any place, and for any reason.[/quote]

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