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[quote=Anonymous]OK let's see, I would not scapegoat the therapist here. Next you's scapegoat the next therapist and the boyfriend.

This could very well be her depression talking and one does not snap a finger and get rid of it even in therapy. She may need a psychiatric eval as well. It's not uncommon for depressed people to blame others for their problems. My elderly mom does this. She is not completely inaccurate. She will blame me for her misery because I don't do enough for her. She's right, some of her friends kids do more. Those friends are also much more pleasant to be around whereas it takes me days to recover from dealing with my mother. My point here is the truth lies somewhere inbetween. I have found with my blaming mother it does not help to defend yourself in any way. I simply acknowledge that yes, Larla does more and I even validate her feelings, but I have major boundaries, which would be near impossible if she lived here.

As for the angel numbers, I would let that go. If it brings her some joy and peace great. If the numbers start upsetting her or telling her to do bad things, that's another story. This is a little different, but plenty of people who lose loved ones think they are getting signs from birds, license plates, random occurrences. If it brings them comfort, good!

Re:the person who said a therapist ruined her family relationships. My guess is there was a lot going on there that either you didn't experience (maybe Golden child/scapegoat), you went into denial about or you didn't think was anything, but it hurt your sibling deeply.[/quote]

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