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[quote=Anonymous]First, hugs OP. I now have one in college and one out and so looking back I see so many ways I could have done better or acted differently ( and absolutely would).  Even with all our love for our dc, I think most of us could say this.

Anyway, I have one a bit like yours and I can state that when he is away from us we are so close! Calls almost daily. Encourages us to visit him! He does blame me for a few things ( and I’ve acknowledged where I failed but he will always carry the scar) but he absolutely knows he is loved, his parents aren’t perfect, and he has had a privileged life.

Being on his own is so empowering as he feels in control and learns and grows as he goes. He was also “ anti capitalist, anti us for a bit, only want to do what I love” but quickly realized without our credit cards in his online wallet all the trips to Whole Foods for vegan or whatever fast casual restaurant of the day - he can’t do😊 Called one day amazed at how much the laundromat was in his new city! How expensive food is!

Hang in there. Your dd might very well have other issues or depression that mine does not. Well, he did seemed depressed when not yet launched, and some anxiety in HS as his therapist said. It could very well rear it’s head again but when he is on his own and agency over his actions, he is so lovely and just a different person. Me being the practical black and white problem solver never worked for him.

Encourage her to launch. She will likely not forgot whatever wrongs she feels from her childhood but with distance and maturity I’m hopeful you will have at least a warm and loving connection. Not Hollywood family moments but you will have your dd in your life.

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