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[quote=Anonymous]I was similar to your daughter at that age. I am extremely analytical and probably on the spectrum, so when I had all these crazy thoughts(blaming others) I pushed them aside, and I knew that they did not make sense. I had everything going for me at the time, but I was still unhappy for no logical reason. I tried to makes sense of it but failed over and over again. And then one day, it was gone. A decade later, my thoughts can be all over the place, but I now know that this is just how I am wired, so I intentionally switch my thoughts quickly when I start going there.

Let me tell you what I remember from those tough years: [b]unconditional love[/b].

My mother, my godmother, and one of my dear friends would hug me all the time. They listened to my babbling, pretended that it made some kind of sense and just hugged me and then hugged me some more. I will never forget what they did for me during these times.

Your case is harder because you are the sole scapecoat(I blamed everyone and everything. lol) Find a way to focus on how she is feeling and show her love. Hug her, hold her hand. Tell her you love her and you want her to be happy. Offer what you can. Draw your boundaries in advance so that you don't grow to resent her and so that you are not left penniless. Rub her back.

Think of this as your baby being ill and you are showing her love as a mom. Don't overanalyze what she is saying. It's nonsense, but she alone can come to that realization. And when she does, she will remember that you were there for her when she was in a horrible place.

Hang in there![/quote]

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