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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.

No, I'm not on the birth certificate.
No child support required. She isn't pressing for that because she doesn't want stuff made public.
No children in common.
I have zero social media.
It isn't about my family and friends. The scale of her online presence goes well beyond that.
Yes I'm hurting, but mostly past the anger.
Why should I carry the public shame of things that I didn't do?
Does "taking the high road" actually improve my character or appearance or does it simply make me a chump?
My quiet appears to simply fit with the typical "men are bad but single mothers are strong" narrative and I hate that because she wasn't "escaping an abusive marriage" rather she started to believe her own filtered and photo shopped hype and thought she could trade up or get $$.
[b]I really don't want to do things that will churn up more attention for her because she loves attention and I don't want to give her that.[/b]
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New poster. OP, see the bold. You will absolutely feed her need for attention if you post anything anywhere. Remember -- even "negative attention" is still attention, and if you push her by posting something, she absolutely sounds as if she would double down on her picture-perfect persona and make out that she's even more the victim: "Look at how nasty my ex is being! He's come onto social media JUST to upset poor single mommy me!" and so on.

Do. Not. Do. It. It will feel great, briefly, but then she will turn it back onto you at least for a while, even if she does end up called out and shamed as some PPs say. But your own posts will live forever online; nothing dies there; you will always be that guy who was cheated on and who couldn't resist "telling his truth" when his social-media-savvy ex just used his truth to cry all over the internet about how bad he really is for trying to turn people against her.

Not worth it, OP. She is taking up mental real estate in your head. Evict her.

As for "improved appearance" versus "chump" for you -- This doesn't matter. [i]To whom do you want to appear vindicated[/i], OP? Your real, honest-to-God actual friends and family should believe you already and won't be swayed further to your side by seeing social media posts by you. People who are mere acquaintances or who were mutual "friends" of you two as a couple, or total strangers who follow your ex on social media--well, why do you care that they're idiots being had by her? I get that you're the one being painted with lies, I really do, but engaging with her only gives her more oxygen to fuel her fire with those strangers and acquaintances. It will not convince them either.

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