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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't have a problem going on trips without my kids. But at SOME point your kid will look back and realize you left him with the nanny on Christmas to go to the beach. That will leave a mark. [/quote]

It sounds like maybe the son's condition is such that he will not grasp concepts like this. And no, there's no reason he will find out about something that happened when he was 2. When I was 2 my parents left me with my grandmother, aunt, and cousins to go to India for 6 weeks. I have no recollection of it, the only way I know about it is through the adorable photos they took of me feeding spaghetti to my cousin by hand. I don't feel resentful or abandoned in the least.[/quote]

Uh, you literally just explained how he will find out that it happened -- there will be photos and memories of this vacation. And at 2 it's hard for anyone to know what he may understand when he is older.

If you go, please do not do so on the premise that your SN child won't know the difference and won't remember anyway because he has SN. And definitely don't ask your 5 year old to go on a vacation and then never speak of it again so that her younger brother doesn't know about the time the whole family when on a holiday vacation without him and left him with a nanny (not family, but a nanny who may not even be in his life when he is old enough to understand what happened, unlike the situation with your extended family). This is not the sort of secret you should introduce into your family dynamic and the mere fact that people think it's something you should keep from your son indicates that maybe it's something you shouldn't do? Like if this is an a-ok thing to do, why all the fretting? Just tell the toddler mommy and daddy and sissy are going away for a week and he's going to have fun time with the nanny and you will see him next year, no big deal.

Except actually I think OP knows it's a big deal and that's why she's looking for someone to tell her it's okay. Which some people have. I personally could not do this, even as a SN parent who needs a break. It wouldn't be a break for me, it would feel terrible and I'd miss my son.[/quote]

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