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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would be a little put out by their expectation that I travel, but I would go. (Who throws a party for someone that's five hours away from where they live?)[/quote]

Because, obviously, DH's family is from NJ/NY and all live there. Presumably he also has friends there. Also lresumably he's the one that moved away. If he's Irish or Italian there will be no fewer than 20 relatives attending maybe not including neighbors, friends, you name it![/quote]

+1 that's how I read this, too. My husband comes from a massive Portuguese family that's based in NJ.[b] They not only threw us an extra wedding shower, but an extra wedding[/b] (we'd had our actual wedding in DC but many relatives couldn't travel and it meant a lot to DH's mother that we have this second ceremony where they could be).

To me, however much I did not want these showers or extra ceremonies - I also did not want to start my relationship in this family being the one who was inflexible and wouldn't do what mattered to my in laws. They early on put up a fight about our plan to get married in DC instead of NJ, then they gave on that when we agreed to do these other things up by then. What's the difference - obviously no one likes a wedding shower, and who wants to spend more time in an air conditioned banquet hall, but it meant something to my husband's parents. So we did it.

Who wants to make THIS the thing that you start fighting over? Just go. Get some presents. Eat some cake. Sleep in an uncomfortable bed for one lousy night. [/quote]

OK, now that is insane (and caving in to pressure to agree to it is even more insane).[/quote]

What's the difference. It mattered to them. All I had to do was show up and be a good sport. Same with the wedding shower - I loathe being the center of attention, did not want to do any of that stuff, but it mattered a lot to my MIL. So I did it. And we have a peaceful relationship.[/quote]

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