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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it’s pretty interesting how the people saying they wouldn’t allow this are basing that answer on their belief that the teens are not mature enough to understand the consequences/might change their minds/might be triggering.

If you are among those saying you would not allow this, please spell out exactly how you would explain that answer to the teens in question, specifically the one with the terminal illness. It’s pretty easy to say, “I’d never allow this” but I suspect many of y’all would be a lot less strident in the face of the actual situation being described.

And to the people who are saying that a small tattoo with dates is “disfigurement” I wonder if you are always so hyperbolic. Also that you and your kids don’t have pierced ears. [/quote]

I agree that this thread has lost its collective mind, because you're all operating under the impression that this tattoo is now the ONLY acceptable proof of love between these two children. 
This is a false narrowing of options, and it's a trick lawyers often use. Don't fall for it.

First, there doesn't need to be any physical proof of this love at all. The love and support is completely obvious NOW, WHEN IT MATTERS MOST. Why does it need to be memorialized in a physical way at all?
Second, if the surviving child wants to memorialize it, why a tattoo? Why not something else?
Third, there is something about a dying person's wishes that is tripping people up here. It's really hard to say no to a dying person, particularly a child. But just because they're dying, it doesn't mean they're always rational. It's normal that this young patient's parents would not say no to a tattoo. 1, They're devastated; 2, of course a tattoo on a dying person isn't going to have any sort of consequence; and 3, faced with the death of their own child, a tattoo on someone else's child is no big deal. But the surviving child's parents, who have their child's best interest at heart, should not feel pressure to say yes so quickly.

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