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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I agree with you, OP. We had a similar situation in my family, and my parents remain very close to their former DIL (my brother's exwife).

Much like OP's situation, my former SIL has custody of the kids so I think my folks wanted to remain close to her for that reason. But, as the divorce went on, it just became clear that my former SIL was doing her best to provide a peaceful home for her kids and to facilitate a relationship with their dad even as my brother completely spun out of control.

As for me, I'd known my former SIL for more than half of my life. We were young adults together, she was at my wedding, and our kids are cousins. It doesn't make sense to destroy my relationship with her so that I can be closer to my brother, who has completely changed. [/quote]

This right here. It sounds like the ex-SIL has been in the family for at least 20 years (earlier OP said ex-SIL & brother's kids have cars).  If brother went and had affair, and broke up the marriage, and his kids aren't even talking to them, how dare he think he can bring this woman to holiday dinner at his family's house?  It's too soon.  I'd be concerned the kids would be hurt by the extended family accepting this woman right away and my concern would be for the kids' feelings and not brother or brother's girlfriend!  Once his kids come around to the idea of this woman, then I would take their lead.  I'm sorry but you don't get to take a wrecking ball to a family and then expect everyone to play nice and pretend there is no hurt or healing that needs to happen first.[/quote]

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