Reply to Why do you blame your DIL/SIL instead of your son/brother?

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "Why do you blame your DIL/SIL instead of your son/brother?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]
So look, your brother's wife may be a raging b*tch who wants to ice out his whole family.  I won't deny that happens!  But the entire point of this thread is that the person to be mad at IS YOUR BROTHER.  He sees these communications, and goes along with them.  He may be "conflict adverse" and maybe his wife is abusive.  That sucks for sure.  But it doesn't change [b]the core fact that the only person who can change this dynamic is HIM[/b].  Not your SIL.  Not your parents.  [/quote]

Yep[/quote]

What is your basis for this? If she said yes slightly more often, the dynamic would change. My brother is responsible for not forcing the issue, but why is he also responsible for her decisions? The inference I draw from your posts is that a husband should ignore his wife's wishes when it comes to his family and make the visits happen regardless of whether his wife wants them or not - I find that problematic as a default position. But at the same time, she is the owner of her own choices.[/quote]

So you said brother lives only 10 miles from your parents? Does he ever see your parents withOUT his wife and kids? It would be odd for a son to go months (as you say) without seeing his local parents. Even if they couldn’t make a whole family visit work schedule-wise (or the wife was being obstructionist), surely your brother would meet his parents occasionally for lunch? Go golfing or to watch a game or similar activity  with his dad once in awhile? Stop by and help with a project? stuff like that? ,  If your brother isn’t seeing them at ALL- or months go by without seeing them, then there are problems between your brother and your parents, even if you are not aware. FYI. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics