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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So the text reads as follows:

Grandparents - Hi my adoring son.  we would love to invite ourselves over to your house for a visit

Harpy wife - This is the wife, NO[/quote]

More like "Hi Larlo, we'd love to see the kids; is there a time in the next few weeks that works?"

Response from wife's phone: "I saw that you asked Larlo about times to get together. We're really busy in the next few weeks and need to focus on family time when we're not busy. Maybe another month." [Repeat in 4-6 weeks] She's not aggressive, just evasive. I am sure you won't believe this because it doesn't fit your preexisting narrative, but there are truly no facts that would make this normal. My parents are easygoing, nonjudgmental, and eager to be helpful. SIL is not a harpy, but she has chosen to stand in the way of this relationship for reasons that are opaque to me. It is what it is.[/quote]

If that’s true (doubtful) YOUR BROTHER has taught her that she can behave that way. He co-signed that behavior. If he wanted to see you more, or wanted his kids to see you more, that’s how it would be. The end.[/quote]

So he is responsible for her behavior as well as his own? And, for the seemingly 100th time, this isn't about me. We effectively don't have a relationship. We live far apart and I don't waste my time on people who don't reciprocate. We exchange kid birthday gifts and that's it. At some point my parents will probably move closer to us and my brother and SIL will have no family. That won't be beneficial to their kids but it's hard to see this playing out any other way.[/quote]

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