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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow, no cheater is going to win any character awards, but you are really low - your AP was a friend’s wife, and when caught all you moan about is YOUR feelings?  You seriously destroyed another marriage (even if it survives) and your own wife, and express zero remorse for your friend, your own wife or any of your sh!tty decisions and actions?  Even your AP seemed to immediately snap back to reality when caught.  You REALLY need therapy and to find empathy and remorse.[/quote]

FFS he didn’t destroy anything they didn’t even have sex. This is all so immature.[/quote]

I’m guessing you are a guy? This isn’t how women see it.[/quote]

I’m a woman actually. Of course it’s a problem, but if there was no physical relationship the issue is a much less bigger deal. He is immature and a loser but this need not destroy both marriages. [/quote]

Immature and loser really describes someone who I will love and respect for the rest of my days. Sure, his wife probably won’t divorce him over this. But if she has a shred of self respect it will definitely change the way she sees him pretty much forever.[/quote]

You don’t marry a static person. People can learn and grow during marriage. If he commits to learning from it and it committed to the marriage some people did that that is stronger than the false ideal that led them to marry to begin with. That is more mature love anyway.[/quote]

Show me a middle aged man who suddenly turned and faced up to his s*t and I’ll show you a fire breathing octopus. That stuff might happen in your youth but as you age it becomes much more unlikely. OP has called himself a coward, even he knows that he is too scared to actually deal with anything so that’s why he hides and feels sorry for himself. I am sorry but I don’t see someone like that suddenly starting to take responsibility. Therapy is all well and good but you need to have the patience and courage to go deep with yourself, I think OP knows he got to this place in his own life by running away.[/quote]

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