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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t know where to post this.
Long story short, I am raising my tween and teen while their dad is overseas. We’re divorced. 
I work full time from home. Just 40 hours a week but it’s a critical position on understaffed team and every minute counts and we are doing big things, so when I am working I am 100% focused on it. At the end of the day after work and chores I am exhausted.
I am already doing the absolute minimum when it comes to things like cleaning, laundry, self care, yard work, making sure there is food in the house. I do cook a few good meals each week with extra for leftovers. I take the kids to their sports practices and meets but minimally involved with the team. I am minimally involved in their schooling and not pushing extracurriculars other than their sport. When we are all at home, and they want to Zoom or play computer games with their friends for hours, I let them, so that the house will be quiet. When they are not on screens, all they want to do is play and roughhouse and aren’t interested in much beyond the dogs and my daughter’s art. 
I’m just not that interested anymore. I want to move back to the city, throw myself into my career, date, and go out with friends. Which is kind of what I’ve been doing. I wish someone else would raise them for a while - someone with the patience to help the kids disengage from screens (we try to be screen-free one day each weekend but I’m finding it’s getting harder) and someone who actually wants to engage with them. I just don’t. I want to to other things. I have no energy for this. When they were little I was a SAHM, maybe even a helicopter mom, but now I don’t care so much what they do as long as they are basically happy and healthy. 
I totally wish I could afford boarding school for the older one. He’s an extrovert and that’s one reason I let him play online so much.
That’s it! Vent over. [/quote]

Lady, you need indepth professional help immediately.  I had a parents like you and was put in boarding school at age 5, a year after my mother died.  In that year he put me with my aunt.  We did not ask to be born and you have responsibility to your children before anything.  My father doe when I was 27 and from she 5 to his death, I doubt that I saw him more than a 100 times.   I yet to shed a tear for him.  Your children know how you feel
Maybe their father loves them because you don't
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