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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm the OP. Is there any wiggle room allowed for me here? Am I allowed to be upset that I have to go straight from daily phone calls to no contact at all for 2 weeks? That's a drastic change from what I'm used to and I just wish there was some middle ground for compromise. I wish that DILs on here remember that yes they are married and the wife should definitely be the most important woman in her husband's life but his mother doesn't go out the window just because he is married. My feelings still matter too. [/quote]

At some point when you talk before the vacation, say something like: "Have a great vacation. I like to hear how you're doing, so I'd appreciate if you could give me a quick call or send a note at some point during those weeks, but if not, we'll catch up when you come home." Leave it up to him.

I'm a middle-age man with an older, single mother who I talk to every day or two. When I'm traveling, it's less frequent, but when I have 5 minutes in the evening I'll give her a call. [/quote]

Why are you advocating for the OP to go against the boundary the DIL put into place? This is not going to bode well for her son and their marriage. This is basically going behind DIL's back and conveying a message that her boundaries and what she wants for her marriage don't matter. DIL already very plainly stated that they are going screen free for 2 weeks which means no calls so OP can go 2 weeks without talking to her son she will be ok.

I would not be happy if we set a boundary with my MIL and then behind my back approached my husband and basically in so many words told him to do it anyways. That would make me resent my MIL and not want to be around her.

If OP's son takes phone calls from his mother than that goes against the who screen free premise that DIL wanted in the first place and opens it up to her talking to her family and friends and defeats the purpose of screen free.

I'm sorry but OP doesn't get a say in her son's marriage at all. She isn't married to him and this isn't her vacation.[/quote]

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