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[quote=Anonymous]My FIL divorced his first wife (DH’s mom). They had 2 kids. He remarried, and was married to second wife 20+ years. I think she was the love of his life. She passed away after battling a long term, terminal illness. FIL remarried to wife #3. Wife #3 was previously married, and her first DH died of the same disease wife #2 died from. Her first DH had been previously married and had a child with his first wife. Neither second marriage produced children, and both second wives were great, involved stepmoms.

Before FIL and wife #3 married, they discussed and agreed that they both would be married with their previous spouses (wife #2 for FIL, and first husband for his wife #3). They both acknowledged that it doesn’t mean that they love each other less, but they wouldn’t even be married if the previous spouses hadn’t died from a cruel disease. They had both already purchased plots and made arrangements with the previous spouses.

My great grandmother was the second wife. Wife #1 didn’t have kids. She died young, my great grandmother was friends with her, and nursed her at the end. She wasn’t married long. My great grandparents were married for decades and had 4 kids. When he died, my great grandfather was buried next to his first wife. When their adult child died (while my great grandma was living) he was buried next to his dad, but with a space between for my great grandmother (in his hometown  with no space for his wife). When she died, my great grandmother was buried between her son and her dh, and on the other side of her DH was his first wife.

Relationships are complex. When we die, we’re dead. I can’t imagine caring about what happens to my body when I’m not alive. [/quote]

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