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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Staring down a long, lonely weekend for my 13 year old DS.  There are two sports practices over the weekend so he will have some social interaction but even his long-time sport has not led to outside friendships.  He has what adults might call "acquaintances" at school who he eats lunch with (or so he tells me) but no one who has translated into a friend to do things with outside of school.  He used to have tons of friends in elementary and now has basically none.  He is a friendly, upbeat kid but also marches to the beat of his own drum. I am totally at a loss as to why he is in this situation.  I mean I see all kinds of groups of kids at his school and I just find it so hard to believe that he cannot find his group.  I keep encouraging him to invite kids to do things but he is reluctant.  I think his reluctance is based on how he used to invite kids to do things but he was rejected by some kids and others never reciprocated so he has stopped. We do plenty of activities as a family, so it is not that he is actually sitting around, but it just really, really sucks.  When my own friends go on and on about how their kids are so busy, and have all these social obligations, I just feel sad.  I try very hard not to make my DS feel bad about his situation, but I can only encourage him to reach out so much before I need to back off.  Thanks for listening. Just kind of sad this afternoon.[/quote]

Here’s some hope for you- DD had friends and a busy social, normal social life in ES. Nothing in middle school. Did not see friends ever outside school and did not seem to want to. Just had acquaintances- had people to sit with at lunch but nothing ever translated to seeing friends on the weekend. She found her people in HS. Is now happy and social in college.MS socializing is so gross and stupid and toxic- be grateful your kid is a little removed from it.

DS is super social and has plenty of friends in MS- also does not want to see them over the weekends. He will be fine

I really think MS sucks at some deep terrible level that some kids just need a break from it. Your kid will find their people and it’ll be ok. Trust your kid. [/quote]

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