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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Okay, but in the end, the purpose of life for most people isn't their job or their professional relationships.  It's their family and their friends, the human relationships that we owe each other.

I don't want you to look back on your life five or ten years from now and think, I owed something more to my family than I gave them.  Or, I'm disappointed in myself that I didn't help my friend when they needed it.

Your mother doesn't sound like a very generous person and her comments need to be read under that lens.  At the same time, she may be commenting in part out of fear -- what if I get sick but I am not important enough to my daughter for her to visit me as I am dying?  She may be reacting in part out of fear and other negative emotions.

At the same time, I understand that you are working long hours in the medical profession trying to help people, and I'm torn by your choices here too.[/quote]

You are gaslighting. This whole trope of how family is everything only applies to healthy families you treat you with dignity, love and respect, not people who treat you with contempt and cruelty. In the end, OP is making a valuable contribution to society and that is worthy of enormous respect. You know what I regret? I gave so much of my time to my aging narcissist parents at the expense of my career, husband and kids. In the end it was an unappreciated waste of time for selfish people.[/quote]

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