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Ugh. Don’t ask. I know it’s hard to think outside your bubble but adding an extra kid does make a big difference to some people. I have a baby in addition to my 5 year old.

Play dates with one other child are manageable, but add in two unknown children and it’s chaotic. I simply do not have a enough hands to manage it at this point. Plus it completely changes the dynamic. It’s much harder to keep 3 kids quiet during nap time. It’s harder to keep track of where they are. Everything is harder. Don’t ask. It’s rude.

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Twin mom. I totally get this and I think this is legit and I appreciate the honesty. I do get it. It’s just a bummer - parenting baby/toddler twins is SO incredibly difficult and isolating. And if I want to host a play date, I have to manage a minimum of three kids. It gets much easier as they all get older. As a twin parent, I would have been happy to stay to help or would have welcomed a meet up at a playground where the burden wasn’t all on you but [b]where my kids weren’t just universally excluded[/b].[/quote]

By insisting that your children must do everything together YOU are making the choice to exclude your children.

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Where did I insist anyone must do everything together? I can’t take one to the playground and leave one home alone, so in that case yes, they would both come. But I’d send one twin to a friend’s house.  My point is that I would be willing to help ease the burden if both were legitimately invited by someone who might feel apprehensive or overwhelmed.  But you jumped to the idea that I was insisting something?[/quote]

It's hard to figure out who is posting, but there are definitely twin moms on here taking umbrage at the idea that anyone would expect their twins to do something separate, and that not wanting to invite both twins is because they hate twins, or don't understand their special bond, or whatever. If you insist that your kids do everything together, they will get left out.  If you make clear that you are okay with your kids having separate playdates, then other parents will pick up on that.  [/quote]

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