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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it's a class issue.  I have a graduate degree from a fancy school and grew up in a wealthy area, so I know a lot of UMC folks pretty well.  But, my parents did not go to college, worked blue collar jobs, and were not into the whole UMC social scene.  As a result, I know lots of people who are not "well educated" but read plenty, have diverse interests, and can hold their own in an intellectual conversation.  They just did not go to college and do not work professional jobs.  I also know lots of UMC women who would never consider dating any of those people, because they are not "well educated."  The women will say it's about "ability to hold a conversation," but either they are ignorant or they are not being honest; plenty of these folks can hold a conversation.  Instead, it really seems that they want someone who will fit in with their family and friends and is not too different.  This is a class issue.[/quote]

[b]A degree is like a form of insurance.[/b]

If you are blue collar and the economy turns, you lose a job, etc. it’s harder to find work.  Even Starbucks baristas have college degrees.

If you have a college degree it helps and if you have a graduate or professional degree it’s even more insurance (unless your loan debt is outrageous ;) ).

It’s a tribe.  Are you comfortable in a crowd with guys friends that didn’t finish high school or go to college and likely their girlfriends/wives too?  I dated a few guys in 20s who never went to college and the women and crowd they hung out with I did not have much in common.

My husband came from a blue collar neighborhood, grew up very poor but got $ to go to a top university, speaks 3 languages fluently is well-read, Renaissance man that travels extensively.  We can from different worlds.[/quote]

Practically, the bolded is how I think about it.  Are there plenty of intelligent, hard-working, decent people without college degrees who earn a good living?  Sure.  But college degrees afford many more options than without them, typically.  That's why we encourage our kids to go to college and why DH's aunt insisted he attend, even though neither of his parents did.  A bachelors degree gives you options.  Graduate degrees can, too, of course, but they often come with a debt burden that may or may not be worth it.[/quote]

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