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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Could you do these things and instead your DH will handle things he is good at (maybe entertaining the kids, working in the yard/house, planning a trip).  Sounds like he is picking up things at the store but lacks attention to detail.  Those details don’t resonate with him like they do for you.

Also it’s human nature to want to withdraw from someone who is being critical.  Your open disappointment in him for something he might just not be able to do isn’t going to help. Either redelagate the chores or manage your expectations.  [/quote]

+100. If you’re detail-oriented, it can be difficult to understand that others are not wired the same, and vice versa. It’s easy to not only be blind [b]to[/b] your own bias, but blinded [b]by[/b] your own bias as well.

I had to take a hard look in the mirror and learn this myself once upon a time, OP. We all have strengths and we all have shortcomings; and they’re not all the same. There may be some things you don’t care as much about that your spouse does, and because you think they’re unimportant, you may not prioritize them or give them the same thought and  attention that your spouse does. You have to be open-minded enough to see it, though; and you have to be willing to admit it to yourself. If you aren’t or refuse to, don’t expect things to get any easier or better. Don’t be a dictator. Pick your battles. [/quote]

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