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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m a wife with ADHD and it is so demoralizing and a huge blow to my self esteem. I am a highly educated professional with a responsible job but I mess up almost everything the first time, waste a lot of money on penalties, parking tickets, mistakes, etc, and almost everything is late or I get yelled at before it gets done. I consider myself really irresponsible and unreliable but I keep trying. I am always behind, and someone is always mad at me or about to get mad at me, and it takes me ten times the effort to stay in the same place as it takes other people to get ahead. Men hate it. It sucks and I would not wish it on anyone. [/quote]

Have you tried medication and an ADHD coach to help you set up systems? [/quote]

Medication yes coaching no. I would need it daily to weekly and forever, and I feel like I don’t have the disposable income or it should be going bc elsewhere.[/quote]

If you had a chronic physical ailment, say constant lower back pain, what would you do?

I have RA. I do not want to go to the doctor every month. I do not want to get blood work done every month. I do not want to fight with insurance companies about what is and is not covered. I do not want to spend my money on higher premiums, and deductibles and copays and orthopedic shoes, and assistive devices, and long term care insurance. But I also made a commitment to support my family, so I have to spend my time and money on the things that allow me to make good on my commitment.[/quote]

I guess so, it just makes me feel like that much more of a drain/sink.[/quote]

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