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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This thread is so depressing.[/quote]

I actually find it reassuring! I see myself in a lot of these responses.[/quote]

Yeah, I don’t find it depressing at all. I’m happily married and am positive I’ll never divorce. But if I were to lose DH somehow (I’m in my early 40s) I wouldn’t remarry. I’m done having kids; my kids are nearly grown; I’m assuming I’d be financially stable. When a marriage is good, it provides a wonderful sense of peace and stability during those years when it would be hard to do everything alone. When those years are over for me, I’ll still enjoy the love and companionship of DH. But if I didn’t have him, I wouldn’t need that guarantee of stability—I’d have it on my own. Many women are now independent enough that a bad marriage isn’t necessary for economic stability, particularly after they’re done raising kids. And that’s a good thing![/quote]

If you “lost” your H, I’m guessing you mean if he died, you can’t marry. You would lose his social security.

My MIL lives in an over 55 community near the beach. They call it sin city. None of the women can marry because they lose all their benefits.[/quote]

What a weird statement. I have my own Social Security and my own retirement savings. I’ve worked full time since graduation. [/quote]

You get social security from the time they die to help raise your children. You don’t get social security until you retire.[/quote]

Okay but likely she would also get life insurance money, and she has her own job. Most women now aren’t planning to depend on their DH’s social security.[/quote]

Many people are SAHM’s. Life insurance is short lived. Many women are under employed. Many men have retirements that go away when you marry. You seem to have the inability to see past your own nose.[/quote]

Many people now are not SAHMs. They have their own retirements. There is literally no comparison to a divorced woman now in her 40s and a divorced woman who is older by 15 years or more.[/quote]

50% of women are NOT head of household.[/quote]

“While 71% of moms do work outside of the home, 29% are staying home. That number is up 6% from 1999.”

71 percent of women are not SAHMs—they have their own retirement. Your example may be the norm 15-20 years ago…it is not the case now. Most women  have their own retirement and income. [/quote]

70% does not mean they have jobs that make enough money to support a family/themselves, or have retirement.

Only 46% of working women have retirements, now not 15 years ago. The pandemic has hit women’s retirements too.[/quote]

Retirement accounts are up during a pandemic. Every working woman I know can survive on their own. Stop spewing ridiculous assumptions from 20 years ago. [/quote]

It shows your friendship group is not diverse. That’s sad and pathetic.

Who cares even if you can “afford” to support yourself why would you say no to $2K/ mth.[/quote]

Do you understand that marital assets are from both spouses? I can’t get 2000k a month. Our retirements were about equal. We kept our own. When women work, there is no free ride like you assume. [/quote]

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