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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Currently being heavily pursued by an attractive younger woman who is recently divorced. Very tempting. Problem is I just don't trust her to keep everything secret. Ironically, her husband cheated on her which caused her divorce. I  like she is wounded and looking to spread pain.

My marital sex life is pretty much dead so I am not against an affair but has to be someone who isn't looking for a new partner. [/quote]

I would never inflict that pain on another woman-one they don’t even know and didn’t do anything to them.  I don’t get how these women that were betrayed want to participate in creating the same pain they suffered, break up another family.  Hey- if she wants to bang the OW’s husband as payback so be it—but why a complete innocent woman?[/quote]

The PP thinks this is the woman’s motivation. He is likely completely wrong. Not saying it doesn’t happen but in this case, all we have is the opinion of a man trying to decide whether or not to cheat. [/quote]

She just went through it and experienced firsthand how traumatic betrayal in marriage is, leading to her divorce.  She KNOWS what it does to the unknowing spouse, yet actively chooses to do the same to someone else.  [/quote]

A lot of people lash out on other women out of anger or jealousy and want to take everyone else down, run their face on the institution.  It’s a trauma response.  Hurt people hurt other people.  I took the opposite approach, I always thought of others prior and would never hit on, much less hook up with someone in a relationship/marriage and now that I’ve been traumatized and blindsided in what I thought was a very happy 25-year relationship it reinforces that I would NEVER inflict that kind of pain on another person because doing that would result in my actions contributing to someone else’s trauma.  I’m not the selfish and lacking compassion/empathy.[/quote]

Sure, but we only have the PP’s word this is what is happening. [/quote]

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