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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Haven't read all the replies. I stay for 24/7 access to my kids. Our marriage is done from a romantic and sexual level but we get along fine. She is a SAHM so I am encouraging her to get a job for her own benefit and if we split.

If she served me with divorce papers, I wouldn't fight it but I would insist on shared custody.[/quote]

Exactly. I’m so busy and important I want “access” to my kids when and where is convenient for me.
My SAHM is the childcare and housekeeper. Works for me. [/quote]

This gets to the crux of one of the reasons men stay: They want to keep their family intact because they think the wife is doing a good job raising them and keeping the family and household running, and the men enjoy the benefit of seeing their kids whenever they want 100% on the men's schedule without the men having to solo parent 50% of the time or run their own household. It's a lot more than OP's claim of just "childcare" as if that could be done by anyone.[/quote]

I am the OP of this thread and you are only getting part of it. Yes, my wife is a good mom and good at raising them but that's not why I stay. I stay because in general it's better for kids to be in two parent households and we have far more resources to parent together than if we divorced. And we both get to see them all the time; if I had 50% custody she wouldn't see them as often. I am making a sacrifice of my well-being for the sake of my kids, I am sure my wife is as well. Both of us would be happier with new partners, from a romantic perspective.[/quote]

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