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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’ll give you a different perspective. It sounds to me like he is highly ambivalent about both relationships and about intimacy in general. I bet if you became pleasant and neutral and “no problem” about this he would stay indefinitely. Right now he is too much of a coward to make a choice, and you pushing him away is choosing for him. He’s hoping you will do that and that’s why he contacted this woman again. But he doesn’t really intend to leave you for her as that would involve a new commitment and a new set of problems.

Has he said anything about what he actually wants? From the marriage or from his emotional life in general?

I would cut the drama, it’s not getting you anywhere… no more crying and begging. You need to decide what you want from this and play your cards accordingly. If what you want is for this sorry excuse of a guy to stay with you I can pretty much guarantee that he will if you suddenly become understanding and non clingy. If you want him to leave and to punish him that will come at a cost to your child and only you can decide if it will be worth it in the long run.[/quote]

This precisely.[/quote]

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