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[quote=Anonymous]Op, I’m sorry you were hurt. A few questions: 1. Are there other families in the group or just your family and this set of grandparents/adult kids your age/grandkids? 2. Did you just get together for Rosh Hashanah or YK Break Fast? 3. If yes, who hosted? 4. If there are other families in the group, were they at the football game?

For my answer, I’m assuming it’s just your family and the other extended family that gets together most frequently. I also understand why you were hurt by the comment about family size but I’ll bet your friend said that bc she didn’t know what to say when you confronted her. Most people would not ask someone why they weren’t invited to watch a football game.

Is it possible that the parents, grandparents and kids just wanted to watch the game alone? Especially if they knew they would be seeing your family for the HH or had just seen them for the HH (HH = abbreviation for Jewish High Holidays). Growing up, we had a lot of close friends we considered family but they weren’t family. We knew that (as kids). I want to gently suggest that you may want to establish some boundaries. As the kids are getting older, do you think the other kids may have a problem with your kids calling their grandparents the same name? You have to be realistic and realize that while the grandparents adore your kids, it will never be the same type of relationship they have with their own grandchildren or their kids and you need to have the grace to give them some time alone occasionally without making them feel bad about it. I think you are being too sensitive about that comment and maybe you should call your friend to apologize for asking and say you understand that you don’t have to do everything together. [/quote]

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