Reply to When your spouse loves you, but is in love with someone else

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "When your spouse loves you, but is in love with someone else "

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Feeling for op here, he blew it...she in the trenches of mothering and pregnancy, a very vulnerable time and there must have been a strong urge based on history, to idealize this past love (as he does) . He did not do a great job of repair obviously...this is not a husband who showed great empathy in understanding what it might be like to see texts of your spouse telling his ex she will be or is  beautiful.while you are in pregnancy and probably feel you are far from beautiful (even if you are). Op, I would share your vulnerability with him and ask for what you would like. Maybe you need reassurance, heartfelt reassurance. Maybe he can offer it in a spirit of kindness. Maybe he cannot. If it still bothers you, yes consider seeing someone. [/quote]

This is just ridiculous. One women tof elegy for someone who once meant a lot to you AND IS MARRYING SOMEONE ELSE is not an affair or anything close to it.[/quote]

Agree. It would frankly be weird if he did not care about this person from his past, and the fact that he sent a nice message (that was otherwise not inappropriate) is totally fine. [/quote]

I did not say it was an affair or that he should not care about the person from his past.  I suggested he was not great at repair in terms of helping her in her insecure moments (not that it was affair repair that was needed).  It is not unreasonable that he be honest about his feelings of past relationship while also being able to hear her in the moment and help her a little bit. There is a history of this person triggering the wife based on past events, a little sensitivity on his part is not too much to ask. That's my opinion. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics