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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Serious question: what do you do with the six+ Hours when your kids are out of the house?  I can’t imagine having that much time for myself every day. I mean, any logistics/chores could all be done within three hours. And with no boss breathing down your neck.  I can see how your husband could be resentful. [/quote]

Not OP but it isn’t that much time.  Not OP, but I workout at a gym daily and between going there, taking a shower, running some errands, cleaning up areas of the house (I do a daily pick up plus deep clean parts on a weekly schedule), yard work, I bake our bread daily and cook meals from scratch and that is very time consuming too.  Six hours flies by.  [/quote]

Oh, barf. Working moms do all of this with a job (except “bake bread” — WTF — but if they really wanted to do that, they’d do it on the weekend).

You take a shower, work out and run some errands? Wow! Color us all impressed.  :roll: [/quote]

Yeah- instead you should push around some papers in an office, zone out through some boring non-productive meetings, pretend to look busy, and scroll DCUM on your phone.  That is way more important that taking care of yourself and your home.

Seriously PP, why do you care what someone does with their time and what gives you any authority to decide it is important or not? [/quote]

Working moms don’t do all that. Most of the working moms I know hire out a lot of the stuff SAHMS do themselves (including, obviously, the after school childcare). Or they have grandparents living with them or nearby. And most have regular cleaners, do meal kits or more frequent takeout, etc. I don’t see why one method is better than the other— they are both fine.

So why trash a SAHM or accuse her of not working? I just don’t see the point. I definitely know a number if SAHMs who unquestioningly work hard and longer than a number if people I know with cushy full time jobs. I also know people with full time jobs and school age kids who have full time nannies who definitely stay plenty busy cooking and cleaning while the kids are at school.[/quote]

+1, my mom had a housekeeper to clean the house and do all the laundry twice a week.  She cooked and did the grocery shopping but my dad cooked some too.  We did no activities as my dad did his sports at night and mom was tired. Before K, we had nannies and preschool.  After that it was before/after school care/camps.   My mom worked 9-5.  Looking back we at dinner together but spent very little time together.  On weekends they'd have date nights Friday/Saturday and hire babysitters till we were old enough to stay home alone.

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Maybe in yout UMC DCUM bubble but no most working moms are not  hiring everything  out. Get a clue ![/quote]

I read that post with the PP listing errands and showers as daily activities and why she should stay home and I was laughing my head off. 
 I work a regular job and it must be magic but I do manage to keep a great clean house, drive my kids to their many activities and bake bread 😂. My husband and kids pitch in. Kids do their own laundry and they each make dinner once a week. I should also say that I have always had great executive functioning skills. I  am trying to demonstrate to my daughter  the value of financial independence. I have also been telling my son that an equal partnership is important in marriage and that involves both spouses working and participating in household chores and management.

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+100

I workout 6 days a week and do everything she says (minus bake bread; don’t need the carbs) and I have ALWAYS worked full-time.  I WAH because I planned my career from a young age.  I got a graduate degree and when I met my husband I went in a direction that was lucrative but had flexibility.

My parents stressed always having a way to financial support ourselves.  Never 100% rely on anyone else for income.  I met my husband when I was 26.  He was 25.  Married at 28.  He makes a lot of $.  Early on, we didn’t need my salary but it gave him piece of mind too and made our household more equal.  We both contribute on the homefront and financially.  No animosity.[/quote]

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