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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How nice that you RECEIVED 350 newborn gifts. I'm shocked that someone as ungrateful and entitled as you are received ANY much less that many.  [/quote]

Wow, okay then. I received fewer than 50 gifts when I had my first baby and wrote all those notes within two weeks of the shower, before the baby was born.[/quote]

you know, this is one of life's little mysteries.  how is it that THIS PP, who seems very nice, received a lot fewer presents than the anti-TYN poster, who seems to be the least racious person ever?  i feel like this stuff happens so often -- the nastiest people seem to fare well in the attention/gifts/luck category.  Ugh.

for the record, i don't mind writing thank you notes.  i think we owe people a lot more gratitude than most of us show.  
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Okay, explain to me why I'm the "least gracious person ever?"

Seriously, can you read? I wrote thank you notes. I am not "anti-thank you note" for me. I simply said that it was a HUGE burden writing so many thank you notes so soon after the birth of a colicky, very high-needs baby who required parental motion (oh, not just holding, but actually walking around and active soothing - that's what colic means) about 20 hours a day. This baby was nonetheless was the light of my life, and I didn't want to plunk him crying into a bouncy chair to write note after note. When we did get him down, we slept. I wrote as many thank you notes as I could. I wrote them myself because my husbands solutions was pre-drafted thank you cards with our names signed. I did between one and three a day, and on good days, I banged out 5 or 10. Do you want to do the math on that? Let's say I averaged 3 thank you cards a day. That is 116 days of thank you note writing! In order to get all of my thank you notes out in one month (let's say 31 days, the LONG end of what someone would consider proper etiquette for a thank you note), I would have to write 11 or 12 thank you notes a day, every day. Do you really think that a new mom should write this many thank you notes in a day? Oh, and by the way, for that math to work, I would have had to start writing them on the day my son was delivered. If I took a day off on his arrival date, that would add .5 notes to every day. Skip day 2 of his life? Take a whole week off to bask in the glow of being a new mom? Well, I'd then have to write 17 notes a day to get everyone their thank you notes within four weeks. So can you understand how writing thank you notes for 350 gifts can be completely, totally, and utterly overwhelming for ANYONE, much less a new mom? Can you seriously not understand that? Do you really not understand that I was WRITING THE NOTES but people complained that they didn't get them fast enough? I actually had one person complain to my MIL not even a month later. (Hey, maybe you are posting here - I would not be surprised!)

So I want to hear from someone who has actually read what I've posted, realized that yes, I wrote every single thank you note, to tell me straight that writing thank you notes is so important that a new mom should write 17 of them a day, every day, in week 2, week 3, and week 4 of her child's life. How long do you think it would take you to write 17 thank you notes? Yet, when I voiced how upset I was about getting criticized for not getting them out "on time," people were actually like "yes, that's right, if I took the time to buy, wrap, and send your child a gift, you can take the 10 minutes it takes to write me a thank you note." Seriously? So, if that's the case, please just say what you really mean: You and your bill of gratitude is more important than me, as a new mom, spending time with my new baby, than getting the 1 or 2 hours of sleep available to me at that time, than maybe, just maybe, taking a goddamn bubble bath.

How is that so ungrateful? I WROTE THE NOTES. Maybe you're mistaking me for the people who say they don't write notes. I am not them, I simply said that I think it's fine that they don't. That I tell new parents please do NOT write me the note. That I think new parents shouldn't feel obligated to put pen to paper when they should put their sleep deprived face on a pillow instead. I just didn't write them fast enough. People like you, the etiquette sticklers, are just sour, hateful, spiteful, odious, mean ass people. The world needs fewer of you. And I don't care if some asshole who would rather I park my baby in a bouncy chair and get down to what's really important (ie. YOU and your precious thank you), thinks I am ungrateful. If you're my friend, consider yourself, well, not. [/quote]

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