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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You’re putting your friends and family in an impossible situation by staying.

My boss told me about physical abuse of a boyfriend. She held the apartment lease in her name, he was a waiter. She had a 150K job and it was her apartment, she had savings. I even offered to let her move in with me for a few months so he could stay there until the lease was up in three months to make a clean, contactless break. Literally offered her my home.

She chose to stay with him. Even moved to a new city with him. And had the audacity to send me their Christmas card.

I told her to leave and offered her my home, money, etc. I’m sure your friends and family could say the same. [/quote]

NP, and I would add that, once you make it clear that you aren't going to leave him, they might be saying those things about how it's for the best because they think it's pointless to say otherwise (and might risk further isolating you), so they are trying to support you in the decision you've made.

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Exactly this. I’m the PP you’re responding to, and I do try to stay “neutral” and keep the lines of communication open, because my former boss has very few friends/family members (she tends to blow up relationships) and I want her to at least keep me in mind as someone she can ask for help in the future. So I don’t play into her social media posts about the flowers he bought for her birthday, but I don’t push her too hard or needle her because I don’t want her to shut me out completely (I suspect this is why she blows up relationships with her college best friend, her sister, etc.)[/quote]

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