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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would not have been embarrassed, but my husband, who grew up in this horrible place, would have been, so he and his parents pulled every string imaginable to get DD into a school that she never would have gotten into otherwise. She's bright and very hard-.working, but severe ADHD and executive function issues. She really struggled throughout her entire high school career at a big 3. She's been at college for two weeks and seems quite happy, but we'll see what happens when classes ramp up. I am waiting for a major implosion. I would have been much happier to see her at a school with a variety of well-rounded kids and where for once, she could stop feeling like she's the dumbest kid in the room. I grew up in a grounded community, where people knew there were many avenues to happiness and success. People in this area are entirely myopic.[/quote]

If you're so "grounded," why didn't you put your foot down?  And why on earth would a "grounded" parent send a kid with the issues that you described to a Big 3 in the first place?

There sure are major holes in your story.[/quote]

There are not any major holes in PP’s story.  Lighten up, Francis.  [/quote]

Yea, there are.  This poster is a milk toast parent who let her husband and his family walk all over her and her daughter.

"I am waiting for a major implosion. I would have been much happier to see her at a school with a variety of well-rounded kids and where for once, she could stop feeling like she's the dumbest kid in the room."

Allowing that to happen, yet claiming to be the "grounded" parent?  Sorry, no.[/quote]

DP.  You come across as a very angry person.  [/quote]

I'm the one who posted the story. Thanks to the PPs for being reasonable. There is truth in all perspectives here. I definintely allowed myself to be controlled and manipulated by my husband and his parents, who still live close by. I work fulltime, but not in a lucrative field, so I just never felt I could give my kids what he could if I left and the arguments over living here and the schools were many, ugly, and debilitating. I have much regret over the decisions. I will say, though DD hated high school, choosing the word "struggled" was a mistake. She hated it, and had to work twice as hard as most, but struggle was an exagerration. I give myself solace, as does she, that at least it has prepared her to navigate any intense academic and/or social environments she may encounter in the future. [/quote]

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