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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If OP’s hunch is right, then sharing is only helpful to the extent the wife believes OP.  Sometimes people might not be in a good place to hear that kind of thing - like when they are about to give birth.  Worse, if OP is wrong she causes undue stress and mistrust for her coworker, his pregnant wife and their family.

OP, ask yourself why you feel compelled to be the hero here. Could it be for personal reasons (to get attention, to be part of the action, to punish by proxy someone from your past, etc.)? Actually it is heroic NOT to stir up drama.  [/quote]

Op here.  I'm not interested in drama. I don't even know the wife personally. The reason I asked if you would want to know is because if my suspicions are right I feel really bad for the wife. I have already said that my dad was a cheater and I wish someone had told my mom instead of smiling in her face and  knowing my dad was cheating on her and only finding out when he had a baby on her and got nabbed for child support.

I realize I don't have super strong evidence like pictures or something, it's hard to explain in words but things seem off . To me they seem couply and flirtatious and spend a lot of time together for people who are not on the same teams and whose jobs do not really overlap it's not a case where someone could be mentoring the other for example.

And yes I have thought about causing stress to a pregnant woman which is why I mentioned the wife is pregnant.

Anyway usually  DCUM is adamant the spouse should be told.  . I was just looking for advice on how to go about that.  Instead I'm a creepy person who wants to wreck a family or whatever

I guess I'll just myob seems that's what everyone else is doing anyway.[/quote]

OP, I think there's enough here and trust your instincts.  Tell the wife.  If there's nothing going on, no big deal and the wife will be comforted.  If  there's an affair, her health could be in jeopardy.  Tell.[/quote]

I'm not sure OP has good instincts. She seems a little crazy, and like she just wants to stir shit up because of her own unhappy childhood. OP should definitely mind her own business here, and probably try to get some help. I'm amazed at all the crazy ladies cheering her on....[/quote]

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