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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There's another side of the story, right?

Op might be too picky/craving weird foods that your DH is probably fed up trying to cater to you. 
as for Dh being "lazy"...why can't he have sone down-time? Presumably he works all week long so who cares if he sleeps in? And does the cleaning have to be done that very particular moment you deem? Who cares if the vacuuming gets done at 530pm instead of 9am - which you seem to think needs to be done Pronto.

Your nesting is kicking in. Your pregnant hormonal irrationality is kicking in. Your anxiety is kicking in bc you're seeking control in a situation where you can't tangibly control something (pregnancy, work, money, whatever stressed you have going on) .

And you're taking it out on DH.[/quote]

OP here. The cooking thing has gone on for months, long before I was pregnant. I’ve never asked him to cater to me. He just got sick of cooking and eats takeout for most meals. It makes me sad, because cooking was something we loved to do together, and then he suddenly stopped and just wants us to make our own meals separately.

I don’t care when he cleans. He’s the one who decides it must be done at 7pm. The issue is that we make plans and then he bails. The night prior he had been complaining that there were no good restaurants, so I spent a long time looking up new restaurants I thought he’d enjoy, and said “let’s go out somewhere, then start the new Netflix show we’ve been wanting to watch, and it’s been awhile since we’ve had a longer session of sex so we can do that to”. And instead of wanting to spend that time with me, he spends the whole day screwing around and then decides he *has* to clean from 3-10pm. I was fine with cleaning happening another day, I offered to help, but nope, it had to be by himself and right then and there.

It’s like the more intertwined our lives get, the more he tries to distance himself from me. He’s made it clear to me that he will always make his desires his top priority. I just don’t see the point in being married if he wants us to live separate lives and act like roommates. [/quote]

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