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[quote=Anonymous]I have three children and we have a fairly strict policy of not allowing them in our bed ever. I am a very finnicky sleeper and also someone that if I don't get enough sleep I get inordinately grumpy. Sometimes if the kid's have a nightmare they will crawl into DH's side of the bed with the understanding that they have to STAY on his side, if they come to me I walk them back down. Just saying we are as opposite of co sleeping people as you can get.

I think that if my kids were regularly in my bed it would detrimentally effect my marriage. When I hear about co sleepers I am mystified as to how they stay well rested and keep their sex life going. I also think they're a little weird and not really 'my people' or whatever.

You know what I DO NOT think? That they are abusing their children, that it is weird that kids are sleeping where the parents are having sex (like, you sleep in hotel beds I assume OP?), that their marriage is doomed, that their kids will never be able to fully detach, that they are bad parents, etc.

This is like hearing that someone is vegan to me, I don't get it, but why would I care about it? Different strokes for different folks and all that.

I cannot IMAGINE feeling the need to TALK TO SOMEONE about how I feel about the way THEY, as adults, have chosen to sleep at night. Unless I wanted to ensure that the people would never speak to me again.

And OP, I could sleep in a bed with my own father, today, if I needed to, and it would be fine. There is no time in my life that I could not have safely and appropriately shared a bed with my father or my brothers. And the fact that you think it is weird is bizarro.

I do think children should have access to their own space as they desire it when they begin to hit puberty and that parents that deny their children this are not being great parents. But that is a FAR CRY from condemning people who just like to sleep together. [/quote]

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