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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm sorry what's your point?. Are you upset that it's easier to cut off s***** family members than it used to be?[/quote]

No, I think it's more common. The Atlantic article said it's more common. Other people disagree. I'm trying to figure out why they think it's not more common now than it used to be. And, for the record, I haven't cut anyone out nor do I know anyone who has. I'm not a grandmother either, my kids are quite young.[/quote]

I'm with the people who say it actually isn't more common, it's just written about more. In both my family and my husband's there are generations of cut offs. We both have some seriously personality disordered relatives and that usually goes along with cut off and drama. The announcement of cut off only came if they lived in the same area. The fade off was much easier when people just moved far away back when it what more expensive to travel and make long distance calls.

I think these people giving crazy reasons their "friends" cut someone off are not understanding a last straw is usually minor and the major offenses are the real reason.

Also, things are every changing. Had a friend horrified we don't see my alcoholic and abusive MIL and my FIL who took off and raised his stepchildren while allowing his own children to struggle... because every child should know the love of grandma and grandpa. Now she is having major inlaw problems and she sees her inlaws look down on her kids disabilities and mental health issues and suddenly she understands more. Those same inlaws were fine dealing with babies, but cannot accept grandchildren who need things like therapy, ADHD meds or other special services. One "loving" grandparent tries spanking her child to show her how to get him to behave the old school way. She set boundaries and they weren't respected. Now she sees just a tiny tiny slice of the things that can erode these relationships. None of this compares to my inlaws and yet suddenly she isn't so judgmental.[/quote]

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