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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This won’t change much until *all* the adults stop crying about it and everyone takes some responsibility to actually DO something about this predicament.  You need to tell your family that they need to stop waiting for you to be The One to rescue them because it’ll sink you, too, ruin your marriage and then you’ll all be drowning together with no one left to help.

Tell your DH what’s going on, if only so he can understand what’s going on with you.  Show him your post here on DCUM and tell him it’s yours.

Start looking for a higher paying day job for yourself and take on a side job. Trim your household budget, sell extra stuff. Maybe your DH would be willing to get a second job, too, if only to help your own finances.

Send over the money only after you’ve saved it all in one lump sum so they don’t spend it on other things in the meantime.  Send only the minimum that they say they need monthly to stay afloat because they might be taking a bit more advantage of your generosity than they’re letting on. They may think that since you’re in the USA, you’re rich and it’s easier for you. They should be showing you that they’re putting in as much effort as you are.  If you have six adults working it requires just an average of $10K from each, which is a lot easier and faster than just one person working and having to save up the whole $60K alone.  [/quote]

Good advice.  OP, you reject what everyone tells you.  What are you hoping to get by posting here?  There is no magic solution that gets you out of telling your husband, giving your mom and sisters a reality check, and tightening your budget.  If you want to solve this problem without taking on more debt, that is what you have to do.[/quote]

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