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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My kid's perfect world would be a car be can get into, tell it where he wants to go, and then sit back and scroll through social media while the car drives him where he wants to go. And I think he is not alone. This generation is ripe for self-driving cars.[/quote]

Not my kids, but then again I didn't raise them to be like this either.  Both of my teens got their licenses first day they could.  I[b] still limit screen time on their electronics[/b], but I never limit face to face time, never limit driving, and [b]always encourage independency[/b].  [/quote]

The bolded is flat-out contradictory.

Anyhow, I think what you meant to say is that you are a control freak. [/quote]

Didn’t we all not have phones or electronics and had parents who let us out of sight most of the day. Whether we made poor choices or great choices, teens were happier, more independent, had much less anxiety, mood disorders, depression, and suicide than when we were growing up. I am not sure why you are saying that curbing a teen’s screen time, but encouraging interaction is a control freak. I truly do not.

Lack of electronics is a positive. If you want to think you are being a good mom by letting them stare at screens 24/7 and then not letting them drive to “keep them safe” is about the laziest and worst parenting you can do. This group of kids just becoming teens are the first decade of teens that lived their whole lives with screens (smart phones/iPads) since infancy. As a teacher, I see a massive change in kids in just the last 5 years, and it is not for the better. They are introverted, have social anxiety, do not know how to even talk to adults or peers correctly, and think their worth is based on how popular they are on social media, which is about as fake as it gets. Even the graduates from 2018 and younger had probably 10X more social cues, street smarts, and autonomy than current high schoolers. I can tell you for the last 20 years in teaching, it has not gotten better. Bullying and hate is more secretive. That is about it. Most teens want parents that trust them, but set boundaries. Most parents are so busy on their own electronics, they are clueless how sad, lonely, and stressed their kids are. Their kid doesn’t want to drive, but rather sit at home all day on screens?  That is a big red flag.

Bullying another mom who limits screens to make your inadequacies as a mom seem better is a whole different level of wow. [/quote]

Bullying? After your little nasty diatribes? That is a good bit of pot, kettle, black, I would say.

Whatever, you sound pretty messed up and strangely defensive tbh, so I'm not going engage too much, because I feel really sorry for you, but I will say this: you don't have to hover over their electronics and follow weirdly strict rules like kicking them out to get drivers licenses the day they turn 16 whether they want it or not, if you give your teen the trust and freedom to navigate their own paths. I have multiple teens in my house that don't have limits on electronics and also aren't addicted. They hold jobs, get good grades, take public transportation everywhere, and are good kids. I don't need to control them with an iron fist and monitor their electronics and force them to drive when they don't want to drive. Life with teens doesn't have to be as nasty and hard as you seem to think it should be. [/quote]

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