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[quote=Anonymous]OP here...man, if I weren't freaked about BFing before, consider me so now :)  AND the poop factor...great.  Hadn't thought of that one.

In all seriousness, I really appreciate all the support.  While in a perfect world when I get home tonight, DH will fall upon his knees begging my forgiveness, telling me I can call all the shots in this (while giving me a footrub, a backrub, and cooking dinner), I know that won't happen.  However, it really helps to know that I am not over-reacting in this situation, and that most moms who have been through the trenches of the first weeks are backing me up.  In truth, neither one of us knows what we're getting into; I guess it could be worse or better than I'm imagining it, but it's bound to be a lot worse than what DH is imagining.  I think he sees us coming home from the hospital, hanging out in the family room, eating family meals with his parents, everything hunky dory.  This is NOT what I am envisioning.  I know already I don't do well with sleep deprivation, and I am a serious control freak, so there will be my own personal issues on top of baby.

I am hoping against hope that he will reconsider the hotel.  I'm not sure what we will do if he doesn't.  I'm (unfortunately) very stubborn about things, and this is a deal-breaker for me.  What some posters have brought up is actually what is bugging me most: he's choosing his parents wishes over mine.  If I weren't compromising at all I could see him taking a harder line, but I am willing (although not super-pleased about them just assuming it was fine to come up w/o checking with us first) to have them come and stay in a hotel.  I feel like he should have my back on this-when two people get married, their priority and loyalty should be to their spouse, not their parents.  Not everyone may feel that way, but I do...and I thought my DH did as well.

I'm still too close to it.  I'll repost here after I've talked with him to let you know the next chapter...[/quote]

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