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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We vetoed any visitors the first two weeks. BEST DECISION EVER! We got to bond, no drama and so relaxing. Yup I was naked from waist up and bleeding between my legs. There's no way I needed to add MIL or FIL to the drama.

Tell DH his parents should find a hotel. [/quote]

This! This! This!

OP, you have to put your foot down. Your husband will get over it, once he actually experiences what those first weeks are like. And to be fair, OP, you may send your own mother packing after a day or two, so keep your plans with her flexible.

My husband and I were a united front, but his father and stepmother invited themselves without asking us what we wanted (the other grandparents were all very supportive and accommodating). It fell on my husband's shoulders to tell them not to come for the birth and that we preferred that they come a few weeks later. They got pissed and didn't see their grandchild for over a year. Assholes.

Everyone wants to come and see the baby right away, which isn't necessarily helpful to the new parents. In my case, I needed the most support [i]after[/i] my husband went back to work, and I was still on maternity leave. Weeks 6 to 12 were especially challenging, because I had a baby who wanted to be held all the time, and it was difficult just performing every day tasks.

You need to make him understand and respect your wishes. Yes, it's his child, but it's your body and your recovery--both physical and mental. Your opinion counts more. [/quote]

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