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[quote=Anonymous]OP - I have a very good reason why your in-laws should not stay with you in the beginning...

Nursing a newborn is hard, time consuming, and painful (for many but not all).  Some babies can take close to an hour to nurse in the beginning because they are learning and not very efficient and they are very sleepy so you are constantly trying to keep them awake.  Most people can't use a cover with a newborn either because you need to see what they are doing and support them just right and you are learning too.  You will literally be actively nursing or trying to nurse between 10 and 12 times a day.  If the baby has any nursing issues (which are common) you will also be pumping in addition.  That being said you will have your breasts exposed for about 11 hours a day which is almost half of the time.

If they are in your home and it is very small you will be forced to hide in your bedroom for hours upon hours at a time all day and every day unless you are comfortable with your breasts exposed in front of them.  If you need to eat the baby will likely be nursing and you will have to eat your meals in your bedroom with a baby on your boob.

For a new mom who is nursing this is a very raw and emotional time.  Being locked up in a room away from everyone will make any stress you are feeling worse.  Those early days are filled with crying episodes (you and the baby), lots of exposed boob, nipple cream, giant maxi pads, sitz baths, and bathroom difficulty.  You really deserve privacy because you will be going through a lot of private stuff.

Maybe your husband does not understand the reality of what you will be going through???  Maybe print this and let him read it.[/quote]

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